1. According to Hochshild, the “Second Shift,” begins when Nancy comes home. She makes dinner, and takes care of her son Joey. She feeds him, bathes him, then needs to put him to sleep. In the middle of doing all of this, she is also doing laundry. All of these little things add up to a lot, which makes it her “Second Shift.”
2. The "myth" created by the Holts is when one is upstairs, and the other is downstairs. This is basically a separation for both Nancy and Evan to deal with their “problems,” of the unequaled household work. Evan would go down stairs, where there is a garage, their car, and of course, Evans tools. Upstairs, is where Nancy would spend all of her time with Joey. This is where the kitchen, dining room, and bathroom is located. Where Nancy does “most” of the household work. Though Nancy is doing most of the work, the “myth” or division between the two of them, is a quick way to get away from each other.
3. According to Hochschild, the purpose of family myths is to settle any previous arguments between couples who are married or living together. A prime example of this, is when Evan goes downstairs, and Nancy stays upstairs. The main purpose of the myth is to seperate from the other person, and basically pretend as if nothing wrong, or ignore the main problem.
4. When I get married, I plan of already having a job as well as my husband. The two of us, would be working full time, and we will b married for a good three years before having children. I would hope to divide the housework evenly between the two of us. Make dinner together, yard work together, and the inside chores together. Once we have children, I plan on staying home, or working part time, while my husband still works fulltime. I don’t plan on sending my child to daycare, unless we are in dire need of money. In that case, id have to work fulltime and send them there. If we do have enough money, and I don’t need to work, I paln on staying home with my child until they are old enough to go to kindergarten, Once they can be in school full time, I will go back to work, and work fulltime.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Assignment 6
1. Cohabitation is the sharing of a household by unmarried persons who have a sexual relationship. Prior to around the 1960’s cohabitation was only among the poor or near poor people so that they could share each other’s resources. Though, as stated in the text, over the past thirty years, the percentage of couples living in a cohabitation life style has drastically increased. 62% of marriages were preceded by a period of cohabitation. In 2007, the census bureau estimated that there were about 6.4 million household in the U.S maintained by two opposite sex couples who were not married. In all, cohabitation has increased for not only the poor uneducated people, but for the rich and educated people as well. This basically states that is becoming a big trend, and is something a couple will do before and if they get married.
2. Cohabitation can be put into three categories.
a.) An Alternative Way of Being Single- These couples move in together knowing that they both have zero intentions of getting married. They feel as though they are single because there is no paper that “binds” them together, so they just take advance of the fact that the other person is there to comfort them.
b.) A Testing Ground For Marriage- These couples move in together having every intentions of getting married. So they move in together first to basically “test” their relationship. They feel each other out, and really take a look at if they are happy with one another in the same house together.
c.) An Alternative to Marriage- This is when I couple moves in together who really do care and love each other, and want to be together forever. They just feel that they don’t need the legal documents to show it.
3. I would most definitely consider cohabitation. The meaning behind this that I feel as though I would use, is a testing ground for marriage. This is because I know that in the future I want to get married. But before doing so, I would like to really get to know my partner better and test him out. The only way this would truly work is if we cohabitated with one another prior to the marriage.
4. There are many rights that married couples receive that cohabiting couples want. Here are four, that I find most important;
1. They can file a joint income tax return, which may reduce their tax liability.
2. They can adopt children.
3. They can receive Social Security survivors’ benefits if their spouse dies, and they can inherit from each other even when there is no will.
4. The married couple are both responsible for their children, and each can give legal permission to schools, doctors, and the like, or trips, operations and so forth.
5.No, I do not believe that cohabiting couples should have the same rights as married couples. I feel as though, that is like cheating the system. If two people love each other that much, they should get married, so that they could have the privileges of the rights listed above. Getting married requires a lot of paper work, which I feel is worth it, in the end.
2. Cohabitation can be put into three categories.
a.) An Alternative Way of Being Single- These couples move in together knowing that they both have zero intentions of getting married. They feel as though they are single because there is no paper that “binds” them together, so they just take advance of the fact that the other person is there to comfort them.
b.) A Testing Ground For Marriage- These couples move in together having every intentions of getting married. So they move in together first to basically “test” their relationship. They feel each other out, and really take a look at if they are happy with one another in the same house together.
c.) An Alternative to Marriage- This is when I couple moves in together who really do care and love each other, and want to be together forever. They just feel that they don’t need the legal documents to show it.
3. I would most definitely consider cohabitation. The meaning behind this that I feel as though I would use, is a testing ground for marriage. This is because I know that in the future I want to get married. But before doing so, I would like to really get to know my partner better and test him out. The only way this would truly work is if we cohabitated with one another prior to the marriage.
4. There are many rights that married couples receive that cohabiting couples want. Here are four, that I find most important;
1. They can file a joint income tax return, which may reduce their tax liability.
2. They can adopt children.
3. They can receive Social Security survivors’ benefits if their spouse dies, and they can inherit from each other even when there is no will.
4. The married couple are both responsible for their children, and each can give legal permission to schools, doctors, and the like, or trips, operations and so forth.
5.No, I do not believe that cohabiting couples should have the same rights as married couples. I feel as though, that is like cheating the system. If two people love each other that much, they should get married, so that they could have the privileges of the rights listed above. Getting married requires a lot of paper work, which I feel is worth it, in the end.
Assignment 4
1. When Cherlin argues that gender differences are built into the system, he is basically referring to the socialization approach. The socialization approach is when gender differences are on conscious, social learning. In Cherlin's argument he clearly states that in our society, we are either male or female. People get basically built into this system by watching parents, teachers, television actors and others. Gender is systematic in today’s society, because when children are young, they get rewarded for a set of behaviors that fits their gender. They easily learn then that if they were a boy and they were to cry, their parents, friends, or family will teach them that is it wrong for boys to cry, only girls cry. Therefore, they will grow up and most likely never cry because to the “society”, it is wrong.
2. An example of me “doing gender” I would have to say is basically every day after dinner. This is because once everyone is done eating my sister and I get up, clear off all the plates and begin doing dishes. My brother and father have never once done the dishes, yet I have never really noticed this until now. I have never actually sat down and thought about “doing gender”, because I have always just done this my whole life. I have never thought that it was worn or a gender thing. But because looking back at the older days, that was a women’s job, to clean the dishes. Now that this is brought up, it makes me wonder how many things I do sub-consciously that relates to “doing gender.”
3. I believe that sexual identity is how one basically identifies their sexuality. I feel as though one needs to figure out first if they are male or female. Once one figures this out, I feel as though they basically experiment to figure out what one likes, either it be the same sex, the opposite sex, or both sexes. From here one is then classified as being heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. From there on out that person now has, and knows their sexual identity.
4. Social constructionists believe that sexual identity or gender is socially constructed. This is because a man may feel they are more feminine rather then masculine because that’s the way they were brought up. But because of society, that man may never express how he truly feels because he knows its wrong, and the society may look at him differently. The social constructionists argue that the sexual categories we use are defined by the society we live in. They believe that cultural and historical variations also play a part in ones identity. One example that was mentioned in the book was that in Latin American countries a man, who has sex with another man and plays the “masculine” role, means he is not gay, even though he is penetrating another guy. If the role was switched, he’s clearly gay in that society. If that were to happen in American’s society, both of the men would be considered gay no matter what. Which definitely backs up the social constructionists perspective.
5. If I were asked to participate in a study on sexuality, I would most definitely say yes. I would first ask what the rules on the privacy act. I would ask them, once I answered the questions would you then post that I, personally, answered them? Or would you not put a name by it and just include it in the data? Once the researcher answered my questions and I felt confident enough, I would then answer the questions, truthfully. The reason why I would answer them truthfully is because I would want to research to be correct, and if I lied, I would know that the data would be wrong. Though, I do believe that is difficult to have accurate data on sexuality as a researcher. This is because one may either lie when answering the questions. Also because one may change day to day on how they really feel, because their whole life they have been confused.
2. An example of me “doing gender” I would have to say is basically every day after dinner. This is because once everyone is done eating my sister and I get up, clear off all the plates and begin doing dishes. My brother and father have never once done the dishes, yet I have never really noticed this until now. I have never actually sat down and thought about “doing gender”, because I have always just done this my whole life. I have never thought that it was worn or a gender thing. But because looking back at the older days, that was a women’s job, to clean the dishes. Now that this is brought up, it makes me wonder how many things I do sub-consciously that relates to “doing gender.”
3. I believe that sexual identity is how one basically identifies their sexuality. I feel as though one needs to figure out first if they are male or female. Once one figures this out, I feel as though they basically experiment to figure out what one likes, either it be the same sex, the opposite sex, or both sexes. From here one is then classified as being heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. From there on out that person now has, and knows their sexual identity.
4. Social constructionists believe that sexual identity or gender is socially constructed. This is because a man may feel they are more feminine rather then masculine because that’s the way they were brought up. But because of society, that man may never express how he truly feels because he knows its wrong, and the society may look at him differently. The social constructionists argue that the sexual categories we use are defined by the society we live in. They believe that cultural and historical variations also play a part in ones identity. One example that was mentioned in the book was that in Latin American countries a man, who has sex with another man and plays the “masculine” role, means he is not gay, even though he is penetrating another guy. If the role was switched, he’s clearly gay in that society. If that were to happen in American’s society, both of the men would be considered gay no matter what. Which definitely backs up the social constructionists perspective.
5. If I were asked to participate in a study on sexuality, I would most definitely say yes. I would first ask what the rules on the privacy act. I would ask them, once I answered the questions would you then post that I, personally, answered them? Or would you not put a name by it and just include it in the data? Once the researcher answered my questions and I felt confident enough, I would then answer the questions, truthfully. The reason why I would answer them truthfully is because I would want to research to be correct, and if I lied, I would know that the data would be wrong. Though, I do believe that is difficult to have accurate data on sexuality as a researcher. This is because one may either lie when answering the questions. Also because one may change day to day on how they really feel, because their whole life they have been confused.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Assignment 5
Like I have previously mentioned in other blogs, I am a female,100% Irish and 21 years old. When thinking about on my working years, (basically since I was 16) I feel as though my race, age, or gender has really stopped me from doing much of anything. Many people today still feel as though white Americans are more privileged because that’s how the world has always been. Yet, when I think about colleges, and their standards, “Caucasian people” tend to have more difficulties getting in rather then an African American person or a Chinese person. This I believe is based on the fact that most colleges need to meet a quota of each race. Knowing that studies have shown that there are more Caucasian people trying to get into colleges rather then other races causes some problems.
I believe my age, gender, and ethnicity has helped me get a job, as well as hindered another job. The reason why I feel as though it has helped me is because I am young and a female that fits the stereotypical look of an “Abercrombie” girl I was able to get a job at a store as well as start a modeling career. It is known today that Abercrombie has a certain persona they need to follow; I was lucky enough to have fit it.
Where my ethnicity falls short is when I work at my daycare. Today it is known that the US is changing and that there are a lot more Spanish speaking people rather then English. Because I work at a Head Start Daycare, there tends to be more children who speak Spanish. I have had difficulty understanding children, and having to ask other co-workers to help me distinguish what the child is saying. Because this is my 6 year of working there, I can now see that they are basically only hiring people who can speak both Spanish and English. If I hadn’t been working there for that long, I probably would have not been hired now.
So as you can see, my age, gender, and race has both helped and hindered many things throughout my life. I wish at times, that it didn’t have to be this way, that people can just see the good in who someone is. Not their gender, race, or age.
I believe my age, gender, and ethnicity has helped me get a job, as well as hindered another job. The reason why I feel as though it has helped me is because I am young and a female that fits the stereotypical look of an “Abercrombie” girl I was able to get a job at a store as well as start a modeling career. It is known today that Abercrombie has a certain persona they need to follow; I was lucky enough to have fit it.
Where my ethnicity falls short is when I work at my daycare. Today it is known that the US is changing and that there are a lot more Spanish speaking people rather then English. Because I work at a Head Start Daycare, there tends to be more children who speak Spanish. I have had difficulty understanding children, and having to ask other co-workers to help me distinguish what the child is saying. Because this is my 6 year of working there, I can now see that they are basically only hiring people who can speak both Spanish and English. If I hadn’t been working there for that long, I probably would have not been hired now.
So as you can see, my age, gender, and race has both helped and hindered many things throughout my life. I wish at times, that it didn’t have to be this way, that people can just see the good in who someone is. Not their gender, race, or age.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Assignment #3
By looking at my name, one can easily tell that I am Irish. I am a white 100% Irish girl, born and raised in America. Both my sides of my grandparents came over to America from Ireland. When looking at the Census questions 7 and 8, it would be easy for my to answer them. I would mark for question 7 no, not Spanish/Hispanic/Latino. And for question 8, I would mark white. Though these questions seem pretty easy for me to answer, I know that it is not the same for others.
After watching the video, a girl like me I feel as though that sociologically children for many decades have been brought up with the view of black being bad and white being good because of what has previously happened. When looking back at the older years with slavery and other complications that were brought to the blacks, I feel that, that was all they had to live by. That because they went through this, today children of that nature are brought up viewing the white being good and or better because that is what their parents are teaching them. Because that is what their parent taught them. I feel as though it’s like a chain that will never end.
The girls in the beginning of the video really bothered me for several reasons. At first I was angry at what they were saying, because I felt that they were basically saying that for attention. Then I thought about it, and though white people have their problems, the women of darker nature have similar but different problems. Many of the problems about their hair and or color made sense, because yet again, they were brought up thinking that way. That they aren’t beautiful the way they are. Many girls and women today have a very hard time going out in the world because most women feel that there is always something wrong with them. That not everything they are wearing looks nice, that they need to loose more weight, or even that they need to be lighter then darker. It’s sad to see women go through this. Unfortunately I feel that because sociologically that’s the way it has always been, it will always be. Which to me is very sad.
After watching the video, a girl like me I feel as though that sociologically children for many decades have been brought up with the view of black being bad and white being good because of what has previously happened. When looking back at the older years with slavery and other complications that were brought to the blacks, I feel that, that was all they had to live by. That because they went through this, today children of that nature are brought up viewing the white being good and or better because that is what their parents are teaching them. Because that is what their parent taught them. I feel as though it’s like a chain that will never end.
The girls in the beginning of the video really bothered me for several reasons. At first I was angry at what they were saying, because I felt that they were basically saying that for attention. Then I thought about it, and though white people have their problems, the women of darker nature have similar but different problems. Many of the problems about their hair and or color made sense, because yet again, they were brought up thinking that way. That they aren’t beautiful the way they are. Many girls and women today have a very hard time going out in the world because most women feel that there is always something wrong with them. That not everything they are wearing looks nice, that they need to loose more weight, or even that they need to be lighter then darker. It’s sad to see women go through this. Unfortunately I feel that because sociologically that’s the way it has always been, it will always be. Which to me is very sad.
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Assignment 2
Questions:
- According to the functionalist perspective, what was the definition of the "instrumental leader" and what was the definition of an "expressive leader." What family roles were connected to each of these leader definitions?
According to the functionalist perspective, the definition of an instrumental leader is one who led the group discussion about how to accomplish the task that they had been assigned. The definition for the expressive leader was one who kept the groups spirit with warm supportive remarks and jokes. The family roles that were connected to each leader role, was that they felt the husband was the instrumental leader because his labor provided the financial support for the family. The expressive leader was for more of the stay-at-home wife because she provided emotional support to her husband and children.
- What main demographic change during the 1960s and 1970s led theorists to be critical of the functionalist perspective?
The main demographic changed during the 1960’s and 1970’s, was that many married women poured into the work force. Because of this, the breadwinner family lost its dominant position. Many theorists felt that this was a change for the worse. This viewpoint, was influenced by the feminist movement also in the 1960’s. The feminist movement changed a lot for women and their families.
- In contrast to functionalist theorists, in your own words, what is the main theme of conflict theory?
I feel that the main theory for the conflict theory is that they wanted to prove the functionalist theories wrong. The conflict theory focused mainly on the fact that mean are dominant and women are not. They felt that if the women were to go out of the household and work and or earn a living, the men would never be as dominant as the originally were. They feel that the domination by the men was mainly because of the women’s lack of economic resources.
- The exchange perspective is based on ideas from what discipline (not sociology). What do exchange theorist’s say about husbands bargaining power versus that of wives?
The exchange perspective theorist’s say that the husbands bargaining power is stronger when they are the sole earners in their families. The theorists feel this because their wives have fewer alternative sources of income.
- The Feminist or Gender perspective is based on what main idea?
The feminist perspective was developed to better understand, and transform inequalities between women and men. The main focus of the feminist theory if gender. The theorist argue that nearly all the gender differences we see in the roles of women and men are of the cultural origin and have been socially constructed. They also urge us to view families through a prism that separates the experiences of men and women rather than just considering what’s best for the family as a whole.
- Thinking about the functionalist, conflict, exchange and gender perspectives, do you think the power of wives versus husbands in families is changing and why? Try to identify specific demographic, economic or cultural changes described in Cherlin text, Chapter 2 p: 65-69 to support your argument.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
About Me
Hi! My name is Caitlin Gibbons. I am 21 years old, and I am currently a junior at Montclair State. I live in Ringwood, NJ which is basically "in the mountains" as most people like to say. I have lived here my whole life and have always loved it. This is my first semester here. I transferred from Kean University located in Union New Jersey where I was studying to become an Early Childhood teacher. While i was there, i played on the Kean University Volleyball team for three years. Technically I should be graduating from Kean this semester, being it was my fourth year there. Unfortunately, that program messed up many things, and this past summer i came to realize, that i really didn't want to become a teacher. I began to search online at different schools, and different majors. While looking on the Montclair website i saw that one could major in family and child studies with a concentration in child life specialist. Before entering into college i either wanted to be a pediatrician or a teacher. While i read about what a child life specialist does, i knew that it was the career choice for me. It was the combination of both being a doctor and a teacher. I was more then interested and now I'm here taking the classes i need so that i can become what i want to be. I am a very out-going a bubbly person. People always say i am in a great mood and always smiling. =) (it takes a lot for me to become angry or mad) I absolutely love every type of sport and have played just about everyone. I am known to most of my friends as being the biggest NY Giants fan there is. I absolutely love them, and will speak about each player and the different seasons that have passes. My family has season tickets, which is awesome because i basically attend every game. Unless my parents take their friends. =)
Throughout my life, there has been many funny things that has happened to me. For that reason, its hard for me to choose one exact things. What i can speak about is what makes me interesting. This would be that i am "double-jointed" in 5 out of 7 places on my body. Most people find it disgusting, while others are intrigued. Most of the bones where i am double-jointed i need to force, though when it comes to me elbows, i have no control. What is natural to me, does not look natural at all. One other thing that is interesting about me is my laugh. It is very distinct. Not only is it extremely loud, it has different sounds, depending on how funny something is. (This is what I'm told. haha, never really notice.) haha
As previously mentioned and i am FCST major, and concentrating in Child Life Specialist. I am very excited to be in this program, learn about new things, and pursue my career as a Child Life specialist.
My current career plans are to graduate within the next two years. Following this i would like to find a job as a child life specialist and work in either a hospital or in pediatric care. I would also like to get married and have two children while pursuing me career. Though i would like to be settled first in my career before having children. I would say i want to marry rich and travel the world, but that's really not for me. I like to travel, don't get me wrong. I have been to Cabo San Lucus Mexico, Hawaii, and other states here in the US. For me, i have never had an interest in going across seas to other countries. So i plan to raise my family stick with my career, and maybe when my children are older, i will travel to some other country rather then Mexico.
I currently live at home with my two parents who are still together for over 25 years, my older sister who is 24 and graduated from Pace University with a criminal Justice degree, and my dog who is 2. A Labrador retriever. I have a younger brother who is 20, and is currently attending school in Boston where he stays and plays basketball. The one thing that comes to mind when thinking about my family is how close we really are. Though my parents don't know every single thing about me, they know enough. I get a long better with my brother rather then my sister which i guess one would say is normal. One activity in which we do as a family every year since and before i was born is spend at least one week down at our shore house in Long Beach Island. When the three of us were younger, as a family we could spend the whole summer down there. But with everyone working and with schooling, its hard to find time. So all five of us block off one week every year, which is the fourth of July week and spend it together.
Wiki, to me seems a little difficult as of now. I have never used it and really don't know how. Luckily i can follow directions, and am able to complete this assignment. I'm sure that throughout this semester i will be able to understand it fully. As of now, i think its a great way to get to know one another in the class, and i feel as though its an easier way to complete homework assignments that are assigned. So though i am a little timid right now, i am also excited to learn more about it.
The one topic on the syllabus in which i find most interesting is about diversity and families. I am in the typically Irish family, and everyone in my family has basically married into another Irish family. Though i was raised to not be forced to marry into the Irish culture, i can branch out Ive noticed that no one in my family really has. Because of this, i am extremely interested to see how the diversity in families is affecting every family. Id really like to see what will happen in the future with families and like they say, "in the future there will be no more blue eyed people or natural blond haired people." Is this because of the diversity in families? What else effects the future of families in general? I am very excited to learn about this, and other family issues in this class.
Throughout my life, there has been many funny things that has happened to me. For that reason, its hard for me to choose one exact things. What i can speak about is what makes me interesting. This would be that i am "double-jointed" in 5 out of 7 places on my body. Most people find it disgusting, while others are intrigued. Most of the bones where i am double-jointed i need to force, though when it comes to me elbows, i have no control. What is natural to me, does not look natural at all. One other thing that is interesting about me is my laugh. It is very distinct. Not only is it extremely loud, it has different sounds, depending on how funny something is. (This is what I'm told. haha, never really notice.) haha
As previously mentioned and i am FCST major, and concentrating in Child Life Specialist. I am very excited to be in this program, learn about new things, and pursue my career as a Child Life specialist.
My current career plans are to graduate within the next two years. Following this i would like to find a job as a child life specialist and work in either a hospital or in pediatric care. I would also like to get married and have two children while pursuing me career. Though i would like to be settled first in my career before having children. I would say i want to marry rich and travel the world, but that's really not for me. I like to travel, don't get me wrong. I have been to Cabo San Lucus Mexico, Hawaii, and other states here in the US. For me, i have never had an interest in going across seas to other countries. So i plan to raise my family stick with my career, and maybe when my children are older, i will travel to some other country rather then Mexico.
I currently live at home with my two parents who are still together for over 25 years, my older sister who is 24 and graduated from Pace University with a criminal Justice degree, and my dog who is 2. A Labrador retriever. I have a younger brother who is 20, and is currently attending school in Boston where he stays and plays basketball. The one thing that comes to mind when thinking about my family is how close we really are. Though my parents don't know every single thing about me, they know enough. I get a long better with my brother rather then my sister which i guess one would say is normal. One activity in which we do as a family every year since and before i was born is spend at least one week down at our shore house in Long Beach Island. When the three of us were younger, as a family we could spend the whole summer down there. But with everyone working and with schooling, its hard to find time. So all five of us block off one week every year, which is the fourth of July week and spend it together.
Wiki, to me seems a little difficult as of now. I have never used it and really don't know how. Luckily i can follow directions, and am able to complete this assignment. I'm sure that throughout this semester i will be able to understand it fully. As of now, i think its a great way to get to know one another in the class, and i feel as though its an easier way to complete homework assignments that are assigned. So though i am a little timid right now, i am also excited to learn more about it.
The one topic on the syllabus in which i find most interesting is about diversity and families. I am in the typically Irish family, and everyone in my family has basically married into another Irish family. Though i was raised to not be forced to marry into the Irish culture, i can branch out Ive noticed that no one in my family really has. Because of this, i am extremely interested to see how the diversity in families is affecting every family. Id really like to see what will happen in the future with families and like they say, "in the future there will be no more blue eyed people or natural blond haired people." Is this because of the diversity in families? What else effects the future of families in general? I am very excited to learn about this, and other family issues in this class.
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